Grace Presbyterian Church
July 26, 2026, Pentecost 9A
Romans 8:12-25
Family Resemblance
I’ve been married to my wife for a little more
than thirty years now. Especially during those early years of marriage I was
present when she saw relatives, family friends, old teachers, or others whom she
hadn’t seen in many years. One thing that happens frequently in those reunion
situations is that someone is very likely to make a remark about how much my
wife looks like her mother.
We’re accustomed to looking for family
resemblance of some sort. Whether it is in a child, newborn or adult, in whose
face we see the features of mother or father; or the grandmother who sees in a
grandchild’s tantrums or misbehaviors the very same tantrums or misbehaviors
the child’s mother – her own daughter – threw when she was a child; or perhaps
more unfortunately, the grown son who falls into the same destructive patters
of behavior that brought his “old man” down.
In the case of Julia’s resemblance to her
mother, though, it’s always a little bit difficult to stifle a chuckle when
some relative says to her that she looks just like her mother. You see, Julia was
adopted. The arrangements were made well before she was born, and – after an
extended stay in the hospital due to premature birth – she went home with her
parents, who would adopt another daughter about three years later.
You would never know this, though, just by
observing the family. There is no sense in which the way my wife interacts with
her parents gives away any lack of blood relationship. They love her, and she
loves them, in ways you would never be able to distinguish from those of a
“natural-born” daughter and parents. They are, simply put, a family, and blood
relationship or lack thereof simply doesn’t matter.
To think about adoption, as we know it today,
might be just the thing to help us get into Paul’s instruction here in the
eighth chapter of Romans. For one thing, adoption was not an uncommon practice
in Paul’s time, particularly in the city of Rome, the location of the churches
Paul was addressing in this letter. Now adoption didn’t work exactly the same
way in Rome as it does here and now, but there is an important similarity; one
who was adopted into a family gained the right of some part of the inheritance
of that family. To be adopted did not signify any kind of lesser status; all of
the benefits of being a son in a Roman family were extended to adopted sons
every bit as much as to natural sons.
Thus, for Paul to write in verse 15 that we
have not received a “spirit of slavery,
to fall back into fear,” but a “spirit
of adoption,” is extremely important, and would have carried a world of
meaning to Paul’s readers that we need to understand ourselves as well. Part of
that involves clearing up verse 14.
Paul of course is writing to a church in Rome
that contains both male and female members. Given this diversity in the church,
it might seem odd that in verse fourteen, Paul uses rather different language
that doesn’t really reflect the makeup of his addressees. Unlike other verses,
which use a Greek noun that refers to “children” both male and female, Paul
here really writes “all who are led by
the Spirit of God are sons of God
(emphasis mine).” What’s going on here? Are the women being left out? Did Paul
revert to the sexism of which he is so often accused?
As Paul has said many times in this epistle,
“by no means!” Here Paul is making use of his readers’ understanding of the
legalities of adoption and family ties in Rome. Both natural and adopted sons
received part of the inheritance of the family, but daughters typically were
married off, and their lot was cast with the family into which they married. So,
by Paul referring to “sons” in verse fourteen, he is emphasizing the degree to
which all of his readers, and all of us – male/female, Jew/Greek, slave/free –
participate in God’s inheritance. We are all part of God’s family, which is to
say we are delivered from the sin that bound us before we received “adoption”
into God’s family.
Now all of this sounds just wonderful, happy,
and blissful…until we get to verse 17.
Paul continues from where we left off back in
verse 15, pointing out that our very crying out to God is the very same Spirit
bearing witness to us that we are indeed children of God – and here Paul uses
that noun for “children” that includes both sons and daughters – and goes on to
say that if we are children of God, we are heirs of God and joint heirs with
Christ … “if, in fact, we suffer with
him, so that we may also be glorified with him.”
Huh? What’s the deal with suffering? Nobody told
me anything about suffering? Nobody said you had to suffer to be adopted, did
they? Maybe we feel like we don’t understand what Paul’s talking about here.
Except…when we think about it, we really do
understand what Paul’s talking about here. To be adopted into a family means
that the child shares in everything that family has. The inheritance, yes. The
joys that the family experiences, of course.
But also the sorrows, the struggles, the failures, the setbacks and discouragements
and sufferings. When my wife’s grandmothers died, several years apart, it was
no comfort to her to think that she was adopted, not really “born into” this
family. The grief and pain was every bit as real, as painful, as if she were
their “natural” granddaughter. She was spared no suffering for having been an
adopted child.
And so it is to be adopted into God’s family. The
difference, though, is that the scope of “family” here is an awful lot broader
than we might be accustomed to thinking. The “family of God” does not stop at
the walls of this church. It does not stop on this side of 7th Street, or at
the borders of East Moline or Rock Island County or Illinois (yes, it really
does cross the river into Iowa) or even the United States. And when any part of God’s great grand worldwide
adoptive family suffers, we suffer.
When rockets fall from the sky and destroy
homes and villages, we suffer, even if it’s not our country. When children flee
across the desert from murderous drug gangs, we suffer, even if they’re not our
children. If we have truly received
that “spirit of adoption,” if we are
truly and fully among the children of God, we suffer when any part of God’s family suffers. We don’t smell the stink of the
bombs or feel the heat and thirst of the desert, but we suffer because God’s children are suffering. When
any part of our family suffers, we all feel pain. That’s how families are. We
feel pain when any of God’s children suffer, if we really are part of God’s family.
As if that weren’t enough, Paul goes even further
starting in verse 19. After talking about children and heirs and joint-heirs,
suddenly Paul shifts gears and begins to speak of creation. Now it is creation
that has suffered bondage, creation that was “subjected to futility” as Paul puts it. All of God’s good creation
lives in anticipation, “groaning in
labor pains.” Indeed our family-of-God-ness is bound up not just in other
people, but all of creation as well; when any part of creation suffers, we
suffer, if we really are part of the
family of God. Creation suffers disasters both “natural” and (especially these
days) man-made. When hurricanes slam into
populated places, we suffer. When earthquakes shatter whole towns or cities, we
suffer. But also, when earth is abused, when air is polluted, when rivers are
poisoned, mountaintops demolished, seas become dumping grounds with more
plastic than fish in them, we suffer with God’s creation.
God’s “family” is really a lot more expansive
than we expect. All of that might just make us a little more cautious about
singing that old song, “I’m so glad I’m a part of the family of God.”
Finally, though, Paul comes to the climax of
his mini-argument here. All of this talk
of adoption and inheritance and family and suffering, for Paul, boils down to something
we saw way back in chapter 5: the indispensable fact of our hope in God.
All that has come before points us to the very
thing that allows us to find ourselves in the “spirit of adoption,” and to bear the suffering that God’s family
suffers. Because the good news, the gospel that is Jesus Christ, has already
been proclaimed and delivered to the world, we are able to live into our
adoption, to live like a child of God, an heir of God and a joint-heir with
Christ. Because of that gospel, we can live in a world of suffering, and feel
suffering because others suffer, bear one another’s burdens and share one
another’s sorrows, without losing hope. We can know the pain of the world
without despairing.
Hope is, of course, a very tricky thing to
experience. As Paul points out, hope is all about what we can’t see. It would
sound very silly if a child woke up on a Christmas morning and ran to the
living room to see a shiny new bicycle parked beside the Christmas tree, only
to continue moping around the house saying, “gee, I hope I get a bicycle for
Christmas.” Hope is about what we don’t see yet. Hope is about the anticipation
of what is to come, the joy not yet fulfilled but still to be fulfilled. We
with all creation “groan inwardly”
while we wait for the redemption that is, right now, our hope.
Paul lives throughout this letter in the
tension between what is now and what is not yet, between what we know and what
we wait for. No one has to tell us that our physical lives are not yet
redeemed. No one has to tell us our physical bodies are not yet redeemed. We
still gain too much weight, still get old, still get cancer. The world still spins out
hurricanes and tornadoes and earthquakes. Children still get killed, rockets and
bombs still fall. And yet…
We know the salvation of God. We know ourselves
to be adopted into God’s family. It is
not easy to wait with patience, as Paul prescribes. And yet it is the very hope
we have that allows us to wait with patience. We don’t know when or for how
long, nor can we really know what “redemption” looks like, if we’re at all
honest with ourselves. And yet, the hope is part of that inheritance, a share
of which is ours by adoption into the family of God.
And the more we live into that hope, the more
we live into that adoption, the more we know our family to be vast and
unbounded, the more we know that we are all together bound up with one another
and with all of creation, the more we pull ourselves away from the things that
bring suffering to others…the more we start to look a little, just a very
little, like our adoptive Brother in God. The more we manage to be not merely
“Christian” but more “Christ-like,” the more we live into our inheritance of
hope, … then the more we finally, even as adoptive children of God, start to
take on just a little of that family resemblance.
For a spirit of adoption, Thanks be to God. Amen.
Hymns (from Glory to God: The Presbyterian Hymnal): #318, In Christ There Is No
East or West; #---, For all led by the Spirit; #772, Live Into Hope